Loving Someone....

Loving someone is a very complex deal....  There are times when we get caught in a bad relationship because we don't either recognize it, we feed it with  our own expectations  or we feel trapped and unable to change the situation.


I know.   Eventually you get to the point where you realize that this person is not good for your emotional health.. You've tried to change them and it hasn't worked.  You've tried to put on a thicker skin and parts of you are dying inside from all the toxic words.

When I cried out to God for help to try to heal... God eventually moved me out of the situation after I said I'd rather be alone the rest of my life than to live like this.  Of course there were other changes that had to be made in preparation of moving but I started the ball rolling. Yeah it was tough!    We tend to become co-dependent... and we're so used to the behavior that we can even make excuses for it.

I was very lonely,,, but it was the best thing that could have happened to me!  God had me learn a bunch of positive, Bible based confessions that helped me change my expectations.  So important because if you don't change your expectations you'll reward the wrong behavior!

With God we can do All Things. (Phil 4:13) He means it.   If I did it, you can do it.   You are stronger than you know!

As you change your self talk, you change your habits, which changes your walk, which changes your destiny!  IT really does work! 

Here's some of the confessions I used when I was recovering from a 20+ year marriage breakup.    Looking back I realize now that it was the best thing that could have happened to me.  Please feel free to use  the ones that help you!

https://greatcommissionhow2s.blogspot.ca/2015/10/my-confessions-2015.html

Sending big hugs and blessings,
Brenda Gale Thompson

Three's a Crowd!

It's Very unfortunate that most people don't know the first thing about Soul Ties.... they have such a bearing on whether or not you are ever able to make healthy changes in your life!

You see.... A soul tie is a spiritual bond with a person that you have had sex with usually, although  parents can have soul ties with their children too.   For the purposes of this article we'll focus on soul ties created by sex because they are the most prevalent.  You might have broken up with them years ago but they can still influence you!

Some of the indications that you have a soul tie or bond are:

1.  You feel like they are watching you when you are trying to make an important decision.
2.  You are unable to make healthy changes in your lifestyle or get away from toxic relationships.
3.  They know when you are feeling something... especially strong emotions.
4. You defend your  right to stay in touch with that person,,, even if they are no good for you!
 
 Here's a good example.  You start a new relationship... but you are unable to move on.  Parts of you keep rehearsing things that have happened with your ex.     You might have broken the soul tie in prayer but if you open the door of communication again with that person then guess what?  Yes!  The soul tie is reestablished.  That's why it's so important to stay on top of this!   You can be happy and then miserable all in 5 minutes because of the other person's influence.

Now put this together with toxic emotions like anger, hate and jealousy and you have a powerful vehicle of cursing going to the unfortunate person that's trying to make changes in their life.

The best thing you can do is to limit or cut all communication with the toxic person or ex.  Even thinking or meditating on past experiences with that toxic person can reestablish the soul tie. Then you'll want to break the soul tie.   It's really  easy because Jesus paid the price!  All you have to do is ask the Lord to break the soul tie between you and the person, in Jesus' name.  Claim your freedom!  Ask the Lord to forgive you for sleeping around and you'll be free.  He wants this for you!!!!

 Also, you'll want to keep declaring that "No weapon formed against you will prosper and every tongue that has risen against you is cut down, in Jesus' name!"  (ref. Isa. 54:17) Then claim that you have the "mind of Christ" and chose to bless those that are persecuting you with their words.  "Father forgive them, they don't know what they are doing!"  (1. Cor. 2:16,  Luke 22:34)

 Then start to speak good things over yourself to counteract the curses.   Confessions like,  Thank You Lord that I have the mind of Christ, Thank You Lord that I am blessed to be a blessing! Thank You Lord that I have favor with all people,  Thank You Lord that I can't fail for winning, I can't lose for succeeding and that in all things You cause with to conquer through your power that is working so mightily in me!   Thank You Lord that  I'm aware of the enemy's schemes!  Help me to recognize when someone is cursing me so I can shut it down right away.  Thank You Lord that I choose to walk in Love.  Thank You Lord that your love is shed abroad in my heart by Holy Spirit. Thank you Lord that I have your supernatural strength and courage to make changes in my life.  Show me how as I wait on You!

I hope this helps you.   There's lots more on the internet about soul ties.   In deliverance ministry one of the first things we do is break the soul ties...  People can actually become schizophrenic  because of the other person's influence.

Remember, Three's a crowd!  Get rid of all the influence from the toxic person (ex)... You'll be much happier for it!

Big hugs and blessings!
Brenda Gale Thompson

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Summer is almost here!

Hi.  I haven't dropped off the planet.  I have gotten my gardens going this year and I put in two hummingbird feeders so there wouldn't be so many fights.

Also, I have been riding my horse with a dear friend and it's been so much fun!

Here's me before we actually go out.

 Anyhow, I was recently asked how I manage to keep smiling with all the work I do volunteering at church.  I think the key is to ask God how much you are supposed to do and only do that amount.  I'm having to get better at saying, "No."  And no means no.  No guilt trips will move me.  If God's not in it I don't want to do it.

Too many people get burnt out at churches with the work load and then they don't want to do anything.  I don't want to get to that point.  When I struggled with saying 'no' to people in authority over me I got a book out from the library about boundaries and how to enforce them.

You can only do so much!   It's not your responsibility to keep their world turning!   So make sure you take your day off a week and keep your relationship with God your top priority.   If you expect your reward from God you are doing well. If you are expecting promotion, recognition or opportunities from your Pastor etc. you might be disappointed.

Clear concise communication about what you can and can't do will help to avoid conflicts down the road.  It's so important.

I hope what I shared helps you to keep your priorities straight.  There's absolutely no point in getting so busy that you don't have time for God.  You can't replace that hour every day with him.  That's how the growth happens.  We think we're waiting on God to do something and all the while He's waiting for us to come away and just spend time with Him. It's tragic how easily the days slip by!

I am reminded of an acronym that Gloria Copeland uses...

S = Satan
C = Constantly
U = Uses
D = Distractions!

Therefore, let's keep scheduling in our time with God before the day fills up.

Bless you!
Big hugs,
Brenda Gale Thompson