Restoring Value

A friend recently told me how after 40 years she finally had enough of the family junk and told her brothers with the superior attitude what had happened to her from their friend, arranged by her younger brother!  Needless to say there was shock from her two older brothers and the oldest, who was a lawyer wanted to press charges.

She declined saying that it's taken her this long to come to terms with the rape and she didn't want to dredge up old wounds...

As she was telling me this I felt for her and said, "How refreshing that must feel to know that they were upset and hurt at what happened to you!"

"Yes, it makes me realize that I have value!"

Value!    We all need to recognize the value in ourselves and others!  Imagine living with a damaged value or self-worth for 40+ years!   We don't see how far reaching the effects are.   The negative connotations are huge.   "I can't do it, No one will believe me, no one will stick up for me,  I'm ugly, I'm not lovable, I don't matter, Why bother?"  I've heard them all before so many times!

Let's be the people that act like Jesus and choose by an action of our will to forgive the perpetrators and claim healing and restoration and payback from God.   After all... the perpetrators could never pay you enough for all the mental anguish, trauma and suffering you've gone through!  Only God can heal a wounded heart!   Trust me... He's a professional at it!   I'm living proof!

I can remember when I was just getting out of an abusive relationship and I had a  small baby.   I was working full time and trying to get over all the trauma.   I was so exhausted every night that I just wanted to go to bed... But Holy Spirit kept telling me over and over.... go brush your teeth.   Like How insignificant is that?   But I obeyed and brushed my teeth.    You see I didn't realize how damaged my self-worth was... Even a little thing like brushing my teeth was a step in the right direction.

Soon that little step led to another and then another... and Years later  I am healed, I take good care of myself and I owe it all to Him.... Little steps add up to big changes over time.

Sometimes we don't know how to even begin to start over.... Let me encourage you to listen to Holy Spirit and obey those small nudges.  He won't give you something too hard to do.  He knows how deeply you've been hurt!  You can trust Him!  He is forever faithful and when you think you've blown it too bad to ever recover remember that the Father's love and plans for you go on forever! 

I decree that you have hope, courage and strength to make it through today.   Holy Spirit will help you  and guide you every step of the way!  I decree joy  in your  journey with Holy Spirit!.   Have a great day with Him! Amen!

Big hugs and blessings,
Brenda Gale Thompson

Home Ambiance....

I guess I didn't get it.   I've had so many people tell me over the years that my home was very peaceful and that they could feel the presence of God in my home.    I only saw the mistakes, the harsh words etc.   I have been learning to put on new glasses...to see things from Heaven's perspective and to get my attitude in line with Praise.   What a difference!

I realize now that because I was the stronger Christian I did have a great influence on my home. 
I was reading James again the other night and these verses were brought to my attention.

James 3:16 says, "Where there is jealousy and selfishness there is also disorder and every kind of evil."  Wow!  That's a huge warning! Is it any wonder that some homes have no peace in them?  If the mother or father is operating out of jealousy or selfishness then every other kind of evil is allowed in that home!  That is not what I want in my home! 

James, 3:17 says, " But wisdom from above is Pure, first of all; it is also peaceful, gentle and friendly, it is full of Compassion and produces a harvest of good deeds; It is free from prejudice (pre-judging) and hypocrisy (say one thing but do another)"

That verse is a mouthful but the other night God highlighted the peaceful part.   See,  you can't give what you don't have.   If you are operating out of jealousy then all kinds of evil and strife are allowed in your home.  Conversely, if you operate with Heaven's wisdom, by following Holy Spirit's leading and renewing your mind... then you will fill your home with peace, gentleness and friendliness.   Who wouldn't want that in their home?   It gets better!  Who doesn't want a harvest of good deeds in their family and home?  Who doesn't want appreciation and team spirit in their home?    I know I do!

So the onus is on us.  As we treasure every nudge from Holy Spirit, as we crave wisdom from His word, we are aligning ourselves with Heaven and we get the fruit of it now; peace, love, compassion, gentleness, friendliness, camaraderie and no hypocrisy.

Friends  this works..... I now have a bigger clue as to why people come to my place and say it's peaceful, why they can relax,,, why they feel it's like an oasis.   It is!  Holy Spirit  and all the angels know they are welcome here,  and they bring Heaven with them!

When you claim Heaven on earth through you.... Holy Spirit will honor that and help you deal with your stuff  so you can have heaven around you and your home. 

It is so worth the journey!  Be encouraged.  He who began a good work in you will finish it! (Phil. 1:6)

Big hugs and blessings,
Brenda Gale Thompson

Loving Someone....

Loving someone is a very complex deal....  There are times when we get caught in a bad relationship because we don't either recognize it, we feed it with  our own expectations  or we feel trapped and unable to change the situation.


I know.   Eventually you get to the point where you realize that this person is not good for your emotional health.. You've tried to change them and it hasn't worked.  You've tried to put on a thicker skin and parts of you are dying inside from all the toxic words.

When I cried out to God for help to try to heal... God eventually moved me out of the situation after I said I'd rather be alone the rest of my life than to live like this.  Of course there were other changes that had to be made in preparation of moving but I started the ball rolling. Yeah it was tough!    We tend to become co-dependent... and we're so used to the behavior that we can even make excuses for it.

I was very lonely,,, but it was the best thing that could have happened to me!  God had me learn a bunch of positive, Bible based confessions that helped me change my expectations.  So important because if you don't change your expectations you'll reward the wrong behavior!

With God we can do All Things. (Phil 4:13) He means it.   If I did it, you can do it.   You are stronger than you know!

As you change your self talk, you change your habits, which changes your walk, which changes your destiny!  IT really does work! 

Here's some of the confessions I used when I was recovering from a 20+ year marriage breakup.    Looking back I realize now that it was the best thing that could have happened to me.  Please feel free to use  the ones that help you!

https://greatcommissionhow2s.blogspot.ca/2015/10/my-confessions-2015.html

Sending big hugs and blessings,
Brenda Gale Thompson

Three's a Crowd!

It's Very unfortunate that most people don't know the first thing about Soul Ties.... they have such a bearing on whether or not you are ever able to make healthy changes in your life!

You see.... A soul tie is a spiritual bond with a person that you have had sex with usually, although  parents can have soul ties with their children too.   For the purposes of this article we'll focus on soul ties created by sex because they are the most prevalent.  You might have broken up with them years ago but they can still influence you!

Some of the indications that you have a soul tie or bond are:

1.  You feel like they are watching you when you are trying to make an important decision.
2.  You are unable to make healthy changes in your lifestyle or get away from toxic relationships.
3.  They know when you are feeling something... especially strong emotions.
4. You defend your  right to stay in touch with that person,,, even if they are no good for you!
 
 Here's a good example.  You start a new relationship... but you are unable to move on.  Parts of you keep rehearsing things that have happened with your ex.     You might have broken the soul tie in prayer but if you open the door of communication again with that person then guess what?  Yes!  The soul tie is reestablished.  That's why it's so important to stay on top of this!   You can be happy and then miserable all in 5 minutes because of the other person's influence.

Now put this together with toxic emotions like anger, hate and jealousy and you have a powerful vehicle of cursing going to the unfortunate person that's trying to make changes in their life.

The best thing you can do is to limit or cut all communication with the toxic person or ex.  Even thinking or meditating on past experiences with that toxic person can reestablish the soul tie. Then you'll want to break the soul tie.   It's really  easy because Jesus paid the price!  All you have to do is ask the Lord to break the soul tie between you and the person, in Jesus' name.  Claim your freedom!  Ask the Lord to forgive you for sleeping around and you'll be free.  He wants this for you!!!!

 Also, you'll want to keep declaring that "No weapon formed against you will prosper and every tongue that has risen against you is cut down, in Jesus' name!"  (ref. Isa. 54:17) Then claim that you have the "mind of Christ" and chose to bless those that are persecuting you with their words.  "Father forgive them, they don't know what they are doing!"  (1. Cor. 2:16,  Luke 22:34)

 Then start to speak good things over yourself to counteract the curses.   Confessions like,  Thank You Lord that I have the mind of Christ, Thank You Lord that I am blessed to be a blessing! Thank You Lord that I have favor with all people,  Thank You Lord that I can't fail for winning, I can't lose for succeeding and that in all things You cause with to conquer through your power that is working so mightily in me!   Thank You Lord that  I'm aware of the enemy's schemes!  Help me to recognize when someone is cursing me so I can shut it down right away.  Thank You Lord that I choose to walk in Love.  Thank You Lord that your love is shed abroad in my heart by Holy Spirit. Thank you Lord that I have your supernatural strength and courage to make changes in my life.  Show me how as I wait on You!

I hope this helps you.   There's lots more on the internet about soul ties.   In deliverance ministry one of the first things we do is break the soul ties...  People can actually become schizophrenic  because of the other person's influence.

Remember, Three's a crowd!  Get rid of all the influence from the toxic person (ex)... You'll be much happier for it!

Big hugs and blessings!
Brenda Gale Thompson

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